Dear Dr. Naughty G.

My girlfriend likes to dress up in sexy costumes, you know, in the bedroom for fantasy. I really like when she does it, but now she is asking me to dress up. I feel a little uncomfortable about this. I don’t know why, maybe I am afraid she is going to make fun of me.



Hey Dan,

First of all, I think I should be very clear that no one should do anything that they are uncomfortable with. But there is a difference between not being comfortable, and being out of your comfort zone. I think it is up to you to decide what the difference is, but I would think that if you are being forced, coerced, or given an ultimatum, then that is something that you should not do. Some things that are out of our comfort zone are very worthwhile doing. Things like bungee jumping, scuba diving or parasailing are all things that could be considered out of our comfort zone, but once you do it, it should be something you will remember forever. You might even enjoy it so much you try it again. Or you might not enjoy it and never do it again, but at least you tried it.

Adventure in the bedroom is much the same way. If all you are afraid of is being laughed at for trying something that you know your partner wants you to try, then it probably was funny and you should laugh too. Even if you are embarrassed, laughing at yourself helps ease the embarrassment a little.

But on an even more important note, you know how it makes you feel when she gets dressed up for a night of fun? Well, just know that if she is asking you to do the same thing, then she will probably feel just like you. And it should be a night to remember forever…..who knows, you might even want to do it again…and again….and again.


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